Mind Matters
Therapeutic coach Lynn Scholes looks at the changing role of men in society and how it impacts each individual
The changing role of men in society can have both positive and negative psychological impacts, depending on how it is experienced by individuals and the broader social context in which it occurs.
On the positive side, men who embrace more equitable and progressive gender roles may experience a sense of personal fulfilment and satisfaction as they challenge harmful gender stereotypes and contribute to a more just society. Men who take on caregiving roles may also experience greater closeness and bonding with their children, as well as a sense of personal development as they learn new skills and take on new responsibilities.
However, men who struggle to adapt to changing gender roles may experience feelings of confusion, anxiety, or even a sense of loss as they grapple with changing expectations and norms. Men who experience pressure to conform to traditional gender roles may also feel a sense of social isolation or exclusion if they do not fit the stereotypical mould of what it means to be a man.
Furthermore, men who have internalised toxic masculinity may experience feelings of shame, guilt, or inadequacy as they confront the harmful effects of their beliefs and behaviours. It may take time for these men to unlearn harmful gender norms and develop healthier attitudes and behaviours, which can be a challenging process.
Positive impacts:
• Greater sense of fulfilment: Men who take on caregiving responsibilities or actively work towards gender equality may experience a greater sense of fulfilment and purpose in their lives.
• Reduced stress: Men who embrace healthier forms of masculinity that prioritise emotional expression and vulnerability may experience reduced stress and improved mental health outcomes.
• Stronger relationships: Men who take an active role in caregiving and parenting may experience stronger bonds with their partners and children.
• Increased sense of belonging: Men who work towards creating more inclusive and equitable communities may experience an increased sense of belonging and connection.
Negative impacts:
• Role confusion: Men who struggle to reconcile their traditional gender role expectations with newer, more flexible gender roles may experience confusion and uncertainty about their identity and purpose.
• Social backlash: Men who challenge traditional gender norms and stereotypes may face social backlash, including ridicule, harassment, or even violence, which can take a toll on their mental health.
• Resistance from others: Men who attempt to take on new roles and responsibilities may face resistance or pushback from those who are invested in maintaining the status quo.
• Increased pressure: Men who take on more responsibilities, such as caregiving or actively working towards gender equality, may experience increased pressure to perform in these roles, leading to feelings of stress.
However, during my work as a Time Line Licensed Practitioner I see a number of instances where men are hugely uncomfortable with the negative emotions they feel around gender equality. Consciously, they have no issue with it, however subconsciously it stirs up unwanted and unexplained emotion.
Through Time Line Therapy we often find that these emotions are passed down through a past life or genealogically. When we release those emotions, the conflict disappears.
Lynn Scholes is a writer, therapeutic coach, trainer and speaker working with individuals and companies of all sizes in the field of life, career and business.
To find out more you can contact Lynn on 07753 579745 or go to: focus101.co.uk
